Unable to move on after a breakup? 7 things you’re doing wrong

• BAD SOCIAL MEDIA GAME:

                Did you just unfriend her on facebook? Did you block her on instagram? Do you stalk her by a fake account and see what she’s doing in her life or to check that guy with whom she might be dating? If you did any of these, then stop it, because in the pretext of trying to fool her, you are actually fooling yourself.

• STAYING AWAY FROM YOUR PEOPLE:

                Just because you broke up, with your partner doesn’t mean that you should stay away from the people who care for you and stand by your side. Hang out with your friends, spend time with your family, take photos and post them on social media and most importantly, don’t do this so that she may get jealous, do this so that you can ease out the pain.

• GETTING DRUNK, PRETTY OFTEN:

                Yes a pint of beer with your best pal is the best tonic for your breakup, getting drunk every evening is seen as immature and unproductive for your professional life, and besides you shouldn’t look like a guy with poor emotional balance if you get drunk and cry out your miseries. What is more creepy and awkward is if you call her and rant about all your old mistakes and blaming her for what she did.

• RUINING YOUR INNER CIRCLE:

                It is natural that you crave for solitude and be alone for a while, but not all the time. This does not only make you feel bad and reduces your self esteem, but also causes a disruption with your colleagues, family and your friends. Start to mingle a lot, share your problems even though you may not be able to get a solution and hang out a lot, just like the old days.

• SCREWING UP AT WORK:

                Nobody told you to stay at home and whine about the problems and not go to work. This is harmful for you and your family as you don’t want to disappoint yourself and your family. Your work atmosphere is as important as your personal area and so it is not wise to stay away from your office.

• THE “LETS BE FRIENDS” APPROACH:

                Where does this mentality come from and why? Is it because you want to restart your relationship with them just because she’s hot? Or is it because of her friends that you find easy targets to hit on? Either way, you will look like that awkward guy desperate for the company of women and be man enough and walk away.

• ACCUSE HER, EVERYWHERE, ALL THE TIME:

                Your peer may be the only place you can share all your feelings with, but constantly blaming her for her faults, about what she did, and at sometimes it wouldn’t have been her fault, is something that your friends would not like to hear often. Accept for what has happened, learn to forgive them for their mistakes and pursue your path to a brighter life.